Dear Coleen,
My partner and I share two children, aged four and two, but our living situation has become strained. We’ve noticed that taking some time apart improves our relationship, but tensions resurface once we’re back under the same roof. Despite our love for each other, cohabiting at this stage has proven challenging.
Our disagreements often stem from our differing approaches to parenting. He leans towards a traditional and strict style, while I prefer a more relaxed approach with more freedom for the kids. Balancing work with parenting adds to our exhaustion and irritability.
Lately, we’ve considered living apart while remaining a couple. Although unconventional, we believe it could be a viable solution for us. However, my mother fears this may lead to my partner shirking parental responsibilities and doing as he pleases.
While it’s common for couples to have varying parenting styles, it’s crucial to establish clear boundaries and shared responsibilities. Taking breaks to recharge is essential, but permanent separation may not be the ideal solution. It’s important to consider the impact on your relationship, children, and future dynamics.
Instead of living separately, exploring options like arranging childcare and spending quality time together could help you navigate this challenging phase. Communication and mutual understanding are key to finding a sustainable way forward.
Best regards, Coleen